Hello, beautiful lights and souls. I was talking to a friend yesterday, and she said, Will you please make a podcast episode about this? And so here I am. And it is about deep and profound self-love. And we were talking about how now, in this new energy that's coming up, as we're in this last little bit of the snake shedding its skin, that we're we're in this deep dive of what's there. And I have arrived at this place where I look at my past selves and whatever arises now. And instead of offering myself judgment or condemnation or shame or humiliation or any of those other things that the ego likes to do to ourselves to keep us small, that I now take those parts of myself and hold them with so much love, with so much tenderness, with so much self-kindness. Because that person who made that decision that I now regret doesn't deserve to be shamed or hurt because decisions that aren't made in love were made out of fear, because there's only two ultimate experiences here on planet Earth: love or fear. And experiences of love create love. And experiences of fear create pain. And when you're in pain, when you're creating from your traumatic self, when you're creating from those that self that's been wounded, you don't even know that that's where you're creating from because that's where you were at that level at that time. If you know better, you do better. That's what Maya Angelou said. And she's right. When you know better, you do better, hopefully. And so the the new work going forward is yes, offering ourselves self-forgiveness, self-kindness, self-compassion, self-love, self-tenderness for all of those parts of ourself that we formerly judged, or that we have arise and we're like, why did I do that thing? Why did I feel why did I say that thing? That caused these deep feelings of regret and shame and remorse inside of us. And that experience creates rumination. Thinking about the past, dwelling on the past with judgment over and over and over and over again. And it has been proven in neuroscience that rumination leads to depression. And how could it not? You're stuck in a hopeless loop of something that can't be done differently. We can't go back to the past and undo the choices that we made in the past, but we can be here now and offer ourselves profound love, kindness, self-compassion, and even dare ask, what is the wisdom that I learned from this? What did this teach me? And every single choice you have ever made has led you right here, right now, to this moment where you're listening to my voice and hearing these words and experiencing feelings about it inside of you. When we look at our life that way, that everything is just a culmination of choices arising that we've made here in the present moment is where we are now reaping, if you will, the fruits of those past actions, those past choices. And when choices were made from a self that was wounded, don't wound yourself more by judging yourself. Cry if you need to cry. Let the grief out. Don't hold on to a grievance. Let that grief out. But don't judge yourself through it. Love yourself through it. And one of my most profound, beautiful ways to do that is to just give myself a hug. And so you place your left hand on your shoulder, on your right shoulder, and your right hand on your left shoulder, and close your eyes, and really just feel your arms and give yourself a hug. And maybe just even rock back and forth a little bit and say, Oh, I'm so sorry. That really hurt. That really hurt when you had to make that choice, when you chose to make that choice. I love you. How often do you tell yourself that you love you? I do every day. And this is new. This is new for me. And it comes from a place where I'm not loving my ego. I'm not telling my ego that I love it. I'm telling my soul that I love it. I'm telling the divine that I love it. I'm telling my light that I love it. I'm telling my love that I love it. I'm telling my goodness that I love it. And these are the qualities of our true nature. These are the qualities of our soul. These are the qualities of our life lived as love. And so I challenge you that every time something arises within you and you find yourself in regret, resentment, shame, remorse, judgment, that you stop in that moment, that you stop in that moment and say, I forgive myself for judging myself. And then do that little practice I just said, where you instead you can you can hug yourself, you can place your hands on your heart. And when I place my hands on my heart, I put my left hand on my heart and my right hand over my left hand, and I just gently press in to feel the warmth, to feel the pressure, and to say, Oh, I love you so much. I love you. We've been through so much. Life has been hard. This is hard. If you're in something that's hard, just really honoring where you're at and honoring where you've been. And in that way, we don't stay stuck in the past and carry it forward with us into the present. This present moment, everything can change by having those massive perception shifts where the eyes of the heart begin to open, and you start to see with the eye of the heart, you see with the intelligence of the heart, and you feel with the intelligence of the body, and you can see, you can feel when you're hurting yourself, you can feel when you're all tangled up in your own mind, and you're hung up on yourself. And so when you choose to not be hung up on yourself, on the ego self, on this earthly based 3D self, you can begin to ask for grace. You practice self-forgiveness, and you are so kind to yourself. Another one of my very favorite practices is meta. And I first learned meta when I went to mindful self-compassion training back in 2015, wow, 11 years ago now, goodness. And until that moment, it never occurred to me that I could be kind to myself. It never occurred to me that I could give myself the love that I never received as a child. And so, depending on what you've been through and how much trauma you've gone through and how you've processed it, because we're all different, is how long these practices will take to really sink into your being. And so for me, when I began to practice a meta practice, which was saying nonstop, I did this all day long, every day. Every time I would remember to do my meta practice, I did my meta practice. And I would say, may I be happy? May I love myself? May I be at peace? May I be calm? May I be well. Whatever you feel. So just fill in that blank. And I usually keep it at three, so it's easy to remember. And mine was, may I be happy, may I love myself, and may I be at peace. And I would say that over and over and over and over and over again. And it took a good solid year of me doing this practice until one day I was running late for something, and the voice in my head that formerly would have chastised myself said, It's okay, sweetheart. Just let them know you're running late. And I pulled over and cried because my own voice in my head called me sweetheart. And I've shared that story before. But it is so poignant. It was such a powerful moment in my life. It was a pivotal moment in my life. And it was a moment that transformed how I walked through grief. Because I recognized and realized in the very beginning, in that first few days, that that nasty voice that ruminates, that blames, that condemns, that shames, that should have, would have, could have, why didn't that voice is so hurtful. And so I stopped that voice and I refused to go into that voice, but it was because I had already done this practice and knew the inner voice of kindness that I was so able to recognize the voice that was not kind and to tell it to F off. And so we can go in and choose to treat ourselves with tremendous self-respect, with tremendous self-love, holding in our hearts our own tenderness toward our own self. And what happens when you do that is of course you begin to see your life around you transform. The people around you start to transform without you having done a single thing. A single thing to force anybody else to change. You know how we always think that if only my partner would do this and that, if only my kids would do this and that, if only someone else would do this and that. But when you do the work for yourself, the outward organizes to match your internal reality. And this is how it works. And so, dear listeners, I invite you to begin a meta practice, to begin a self-kindness practice, to begin a self-forgiveness practice, to let yourself that is no longer here, the self that made whatever choices were made in those particular moments, with just treat her with tremendous love. You're always doing the best you can. Put an end to it, and to step into complete and utter self-trust and trust in God. Trust in him, my son. Trust that these frequencies, these different voices, and I say voice with quotations in my fingers. I'm doing little quotations because they're not like audible voices so much as they feel like different frequencies inside of my mind that arise. And now I'm really starting to discern that these are not things I'm making up. This is channeling. This is tapping into and accessing and waking up our own spiritual powers. And we all have spiritual powers that are locked away and hidden underneath these rubbles of shame, of fear, of self-doubt, of self-recrimination, of self-condemnation, of self-shaming. And so this work that we are doing now, this energy that we are invited into, is to completely just put an end to that. There's no need for it anymore. Love yourself for every self you've ever been. Love yourself for every self you have ever been. There's tremendous freedom in that. And as always, invite you into the sisterhood where we have such beautiful practices. I did the practice in there this morning for this month on deep self-forgiveness, and it was so beautiful. And you can find it at thatmystic.com or schoolsko L dot com forward slash sisterhood. Love yourself, love yourself, love yourself. There's no one else like you on the planet or anywhere else. Hug yourself while you listen to this song. Bye, loves. Oh, the nights I lost my way. I don't reveal the doors open, even when I couldn't stay. Every step I took in darkness, every side should be put upon my shoulder, pointing me this way.